Tag: vulnerability
This Secret Longing to be Held by a Stronger Man
I yearn to be held by a bigger, stronger man, to rest in his powerful arms, to lay my head on his chest. I ache for this; I dwell on this desire a lot. I suppose, given the nature of this website, my admission surprises approximately nobody. But it’s hard to admit.
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Corona ConvoCast 11: Tom and Ryan Are Cookin’ and CrossFittin’!
Tom welcomes Ryan to talk about cooking with new creativity in the kitchen and CrossFit workouts at home during this coronavirus pandemic. They also recount Pastor Matt, AKA “Weird Jesus” from a previous YOBcast episode, and how he’s bettering the world during this quarantine.
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Corona ConvoCast 03: Tom and Matt Go Boarding!
Tom welcomes back another OG YOB author, Matt, to talk about how coronavirus life is affecting him on the other side of the country. There’s been some tragedy but also some hope. Tom also promises to follow in Matt’s literal footsteps and go longboarding very soon.
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Am I a Burden or a Gift to the Church as a Gay Celibate Man?
To many Christians, I am a burden. I have strong faith convictions, and I try to live according to those convictions. I love studying the Bible and find joy in my faith. I also give up a lot. Living the celibate life is not easy at times. But all too often the burden of this celibate gay/SSA life is only increased by the church.
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YOBcast Episode 059 (LIVE): Favorite Blogs!
We’ve written over 300 blogs here at YOB since 2015, and we gathered four of our site’s authors to discuss our favorite ones – recorded in front of a couple dozen people, no less. That’s right, it’s our first-ever LIVE recorded podcast with a digital audience! We invited our Patreon supporters on Facebook to watch and participate in the discussion with comments and questions for this episode’s cast: Tom, Ryan, Dean, and Matt. Each of us reads our personal favorite blog for the cast and YOBBERS to discuss. We also mention our blogs that have garnered the most views these last four years, and Tom and Matt share lots of fun-loving “big brother” moments together.
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The First Same-Sex Attracted Christian Man I Met
I enjoyed telling him my story and my struggles with faith and sexuality. I could talk to him about my failings and slip-ups and didn’t feel any judgment or disapproval. I talked to him about my deep loneliness, longing for brotherhood and friendships – to be accepted by other men and yet met with rejection or cold indifference. It felt liberating talking to someone about this stuff for the first time.
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Deciding to Love Others More Affectionately
In the year of our Lord two thousand and nineteen, a fun idea came to mind. Instead of coming up with a new year’s resolution that would require me to exert some striving effort or discipline, I thought of a fun goal for the year instead. I wrote something in my prayer journal; it’s a prayer that became my goal for the year. But what did “To love more affectionately and not robotically” actually mean?
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Do I Still Pray the Gay Away?
When they hear I’m attracted to men but married to a woman, straight people, particularly Christians, sometimes ask if I expect my attractions to “change” in this life. For the longest time, I prayed for God to change my attractions. To make me straight. I do still pray about my sexuality, but I don’t pray that God would change my attractions to heterosexual.
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YOBcast Episode 057: Gay Sex and Hookups
What led to your having gay sex for the first time? Can you separate the physical from the emotional in gay sex? How many times have you had gay sex, and would you consider yourself a sex addict? It’s a throwback episode with three of our original YOB cofounders: Tom, Dean, and Matt. We talk with Matt about his journey and struggles with gay sex and hookups. It’s a raw, courageous chronicling of his story as a pastor’s kid – a story still being written to this day. We also catch up with Dean and Matt from the last year or so, including Dean’s recent exploits to Canada (and questionable Canadian accent) and Matt’s sarcastic sense of humor (or actual disappointment) with Tom…
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Pornography, Promiscuity, Praise. Repeat.
It often feels like a self-fulfilling cycle of a formula: that as soon as I praise God, when I repent and I’m again “right” with Him, I’m back on an inevitable trajectory toward porn and promiscuity and the dark desires of my heart.
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