Living (and Dying) in Community
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Living (and Dying) in Community

There are people in my life I don’t like very much. I don’t like talking to them and I don’t like spending much time with them. They wear on me. Our personalities clash. Christians often avoid admitting disliking anyone, especially in their community, but let’s be real here: some people drive us crazy. I don’t always […]

We All Have a Story to Tell
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We All Have a Story to Tell

There are a few parts of my life and story that you should know because they will likely be referenced in future posts: traveling and experiencing culture are two of my passions. I’ve visited several countries and forty states. There’s something that draws me to new places and people. Being a wanderer, I am not […]

My Passion Comes from Pain
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My Passion Comes from Pain

If you hang out with me long enough, I hope you’ll see this passion or drive for my Christian faith. I’d say I’ve had this passion for a long time. My church friends have seen this firsthand, as well as my gay friends! I can also sense it myself whenever I’m at my small group or Bible […]

I Know I’m A Hypocrite
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I Know I’m A Hypocrite

A few weeks ago, I made a friend at a coffee shop down the road. He’s a gay guy I’d gotten acquainted with through social media, and he got ahold of me because he wanted to know more about me and my faith. You see, where I live, we kinda have a small LGBT community, […]

Why I Almost Left YOB
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Why I Almost Left YOB

It’s no secret: I have struggled with blogging the past several months. When YOB started, I was a regular. I was posting pretty much every week. Blog ideas were coming out the wazoo and I was putting them all out there for the readers. I was reliable. Dependable. Always ready to share. And then I […]

Things I’m Learning While Living With Another Guy
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Things I’m Learning While Living With Another Guy

Hey brothers! I wanted to give you all a quick bird’s eye view of my life the last 9 months! I bought a house. It feels really weird typing that sentence right now! I still lie in bed at nights and have a hard time processing the fact that I’m responsible for my own place. […]

Who Will Teach Us Masculinity?
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Who Will Teach Us Masculinity?

The following exchange comes directly from a recent text conversation between Elliott Gladwin and Bradley Alexander: what is masculinity, and who will teach us masculinity? Elliott: I tend to “love” attractive guys more than ugly ones. I sort of play this unspoken game where I try to manipulate them to love me. Bradley: How do you go […]

Are SSA Christians Like Modern-Day Eunuchs?
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Are SSA Christians Like Modern-Day Eunuchs?

We don’t hear much about eunuchs in our day and age. I’d bet most people in my generation don’t even know what a eunuch is. So, to inform everyone, a eunuch is a man who’s had his testicles or his entire genitalia removed, a man employed by some high-ranking official, his castration done to ensure he […]

Why I Can’t be a Church Leader
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Why I Can’t be a Church Leader

A few weeks passed after my church incident, and I still could not process what had happened! The anger inside me started to swell up. I would cry every now and then, thinking about how I’d lost my chance to do something great for God. It had been my dream to enter SOM and go on to Bible college and […]

What If You Have No Friends?
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What If You Have No Friends?

Growing up in the church, I heard all about the importance of regular fellowship with other Christians. Pastors spoke on it again and again, using all kinds of metaphors and analogies to drive home their points. We should never be lone rangers. We can’t be lone wolves. We’re not the Marlboro man. A hot coal dies […]