Losing the Greatest Community of My Life
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Losing the Greatest Community of My Life

Two years ago, I moved away from an incredibly close community of guys. I first met these guys during my first year of Bible college. We all lived in the same dorm, and we grew incredibly close. I disclosed my attraction to the same sex to all of them just a month or two into […]

Discovering the Heart of My Nudist Desires
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Discovering the Heart of My Nudist Desires

In the first installment of this series, I described the beginnings of my long and complicated relationship with nudity. Entering high school, my love/hate relationship with nudity became more complicated . . . I grew fascinated by the thought of naked men and being naked with them but also terrified at the same time. My […]

My Friend’s Baggage Affects Me
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My Friend’s Baggage Affects Me

This is the second post featuring my rocky friendship with Jake; check out Part 1. After I let Jake sleep on my couch for a few days, he went back to his parents’ house. We remained in contact. I knew he was trouble, but I saw something in him that made me want to befriend […]

My Struggles Like Substance Abuse
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My Struggles Like Substance Abuse

I remember the first time I saw Jake at my front door. I’d gotten a call from a high school student I had tutored, and that student had sent him to me because Jake was 18 and his parents had just thrown him out of the house. He thought I might give Jake a place […]

YOBcast Episode 012: Masturbation, Part 2
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YOBcast Episode 012: Masturbation, Part 2

How do we reckon with masturbation? What triggers us, and how do we not let masturbation dominate our lives? How do we change the culture of sexual conversations (or lack thereof) in the church today? It’s the second in our two-part series on masturbation! Join Tom and Elliott in a discussion on triggers, willpower, and changing […]

YOBcast Episode 011: Masturbation, Part 1
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YOBcast Episode 011: Masturbation, Part 1

What is masturbation? How do we discover masturbation in childhood? Where do we draw the line of morality with masturbation, and what does the Bible say about it — if anything? Masturbation is such a taboo topic in Christian circles, and we talked so much this episode that we actually decided to split this one in two; stay tuned […]

Coming Out to My Fraternity Brother
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Coming Out to My Fraternity Brother

The following is Part Two in this series of posts; click here for Part One. In an attempt to comfort myself as I prepared to share my story of same-sex attraction and addiction with my new friend and fraternity brother, I focused on one of my favorite verses from Isaiah: So don’t worry, because I am […]

Losing My Sexual Sobriety
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Losing My Sexual Sobriety

I lost my sexual sobriety a few weeks ago. Just cutting right to the chase — it’s been a hard few weeks. From the start, I knew how risky it was to write so openly about my journey through sexual sobriety. I don’t regret doing so, but I feel all kinds of yucky confessing my […]

How a Prodigal Son Changed the Story
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How a Prodigal Son Changed the Story

This is Part 2 in my series about my friendship with Jeremy. Check out Part 1 and Part 3. After my SSA friend Jeremy invited several 18-year-old guys to live with him in his new condo, things spiraled out of control. His younger housemates were the “bad kids” who’d grown up in our church but had been sneaking around […]

Confession: A Spoken Word
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Confession: A Spoken Word

Introducing a new video! Instead of a traditional blog post, I have decided to share some of my story and experiences with you in the spoken word format. Check out my video from our YOBTube channel for an honest confession of my hurts, frustrations, and needs as a same-sex attracted believer. Hopefully you resonate with it on some level. […]