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Wounded Sparrow Seeking Home: Intro to a Queer, Married Pastor

by Ben Rutkowski | Apr 23, 2019 | Lifestories | 33

I like men in more than just a friendly way. I am a man who is attracted emotionally and sexually to other men. I am also married to a woman, attracted only to her out of all the women on earth. Somehow, it works. I am queer. And for much of my life, that has terrified me.

Why I Don’t Call Myself Gay

by Marshall | Mar 22, 2019 | Musings | 27

I experience same-sex sexual attraction, which I regard as a temptation to sin. I definitely believe that all gay sex is sin, so I fight that temptation with God’s help. Despite these sexual feelings for men, I just can’t bring myself to say I am gay.

YOBcast Episode 047: Intimacy

by YOB | Mar 15, 2019 | Podcast | 12

Intimacy is scary, and intimacy is vulnerable. Intimacy can be shared or rejected. Intimacy is special and sacred, and intimacy is everyday. Intimacy is sexual and emotional, physical and spiritual. Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob in the first of a two-part deep dive into intimacy. The brothers define intimacy, likening it to a fire, discussing the differences and nuances between intimacy and vulnerability. They also talk about their first forays into intimacy many years ago and what the cornerstone of their most intimate relationships has been.

That One Summer My Friend Declared His Love for Me

by Kevin Zimmerman | Mar 8, 2019 | Lifestories | 19

How was I to respond to my friend’s declaration? After everything that had happened in France, I felt even more confused about relationships and sexuality. My faith seemed in limbo, without much support from my summer community, so I didn’t know where to put my friend in my life and understanding of faith.

Sobering and Necessary: Our Response to “Boy Erased”

by YOB | Feb 26, 2019 | Conversations, Popular | 52

Several of our featured authors watched the film, Boy Erased. It’s based on the real-life story of Garrard Conley who wrote a memoir of the same name. Boy Erased follows a young man’s journey through reparative or conversion therapy, and it’s also a story of a mother’s and father’s relationships with their gay son. It’s a heavy film, and we debriefed it together in this extensive conversation.

I Wanted to be Ex-Gay

by Eugene Heffron | Jan 15, 2019 | Lifestories | 24

I hadn’t wanted orientation change out of a desire to please God. I’d wanted to be straight because I simply wanted to be normal. I had been scared. I was internally homophobic, hating myself and especially other gay men.

State of the YOB! December 2018

by YOB | Dec 31, 2018 | State of the YOB, Video | 0

It’s our monthly lookback on all the blogs, podcasts, and videos from Your Other Brothers! What do you think of the new chair?! Don’t get used to it. Also, do I drink weirdly?? Don’t answer that.

I Like a Girl?

by Matthew 'Áshįįhí | Dec 19, 2018 | Lifestories | 12

As I drove down the base of the mountain after listening to a sermon and enjoying some prayer, the thought once more popped into my head: “You like Annie!” I wanted to swipe away the thought again, but this time I actually considered it. Maybe I could like a girl?

“Pray the Gay Away” This Christmas

by Thomas Mark Zuniga | Dec 10, 2018 | Manly Monday, Video | 4

Have you ever tried to “pray the gay away”? God’s way of doing things often — nearly always — involves an exorbitant amount of waiting, process, and journey. It’s a brand new MANLY MONDAY, featuring Simeon’s story from Luke 2, the concept of Jesus coming to earth as a baby rather than a man, and my bangs.

Is This Physical Acceptance With Another Man?

by Kevin Zimmerman | Dec 4, 2018 | Lifestories | 37

It felt good to be close to another man. And yet, was it right (healthy, faithful, acceptable) to like this? Is this what acceptance in a physical sense felt like?