Not Interested in a New Machismo
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Not Interested in a New Machismo

Walking into manhood has felt less like an epic saga and more like stumbling drunkenly and blindly through the valley of death and dying. I tried to find my strength, fortitude, and the path to manhood on my own; years later, I still come up short. My feelings of inadequacy pointed to where I was […]

Permission to Read Our Stories
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Permission to Read Our Stories

I don’t know that I have permission to read these stories. My new friend, Henry, said as a puzzled look hit my face. He must have noticed, because he scratched his chin as he leaned back to consider it. I followed suit, ruminating further. “It’s so personal,” Henry continued. “And I guess I just don’t […]

YOBcast Episode 020: Manliness
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YOBcast Episode 020: Manliness

What is manliness? Who modeled manliness for us? Is there a one-size-fits-all model for manliness in today’s culture? As always, we thank our faithful Patreon supporters. This episode — and every episode — would not be possible without you. You fuel our show with comments, questions, and fantastic perspectives. Thank you, YOBBERS! If you love […]

It’s Okay for Men to Cry
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It’s Okay for Men to Cry

Even as I write that title, something within me questions its truth. Is it really acceptable for men to cry? American culture has told me and countless other boys and young men that crying is not manly. Men are supposed to be tough. Crying is for wimps who can’t take the pain. Caring enough to […]

Finding Freedom on Father’s Day
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Finding Freedom on Father’s Day

What a way to start my Father’s Day. I mean, I can think of worse ways. Balloons could have gotten caught in the ceiling fan above my bed and mimicked the sounds of machine guns as they whirled around wildly. However, I can’t say that this text lay too far ahead in the lineup. As […]

Growing Up as a Pastor’s Kid with SSA
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Growing Up as a Pastor’s Kid with SSA

Childhood plays a very significant part in our lives. How we’re raised defines us in adulthood, paving the way toward how we interact with people: family, friends, churches, co-workers, or strangers. Father figures especially shaped our lives. Truth be told, none of us had a perfect father growing up. Some of us grew up in […]

Real Men Fix Things
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Real Men Fix Things

You could not have imagined a stranger sight: I was on my stomach, stretched out on the hallway upstairs, groaning with every twist of the hand, sweat pouring down my face, obscenities flowing from my mouth, and only the thought of, “How did I get here?” going through my head. And then my wife came […]

My Father Doesn’t Know Me
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My Father Doesn’t Know Me

I had a great childhood. I grew up in a Christian home with stable, loving parents who raised my brother and me to love the Lord, leading us in daily morning Bible studies. They both had somewhat difficult childhoods themselves and, as most parents do, they wanted to give their sons a better start in life than […]

YOBcast Episode 011: Masturbation, Part 1
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YOBcast Episode 011: Masturbation, Part 1

What is masturbation? How do we discover masturbation in childhood? Where do we draw the line of morality with masturbation, and what does the Bible say about it — if anything? Masturbation is such a taboo topic in Christian circles, and we talked so much this episode that we actually decided to split this one in two; stay tuned […]

My Passion Comes from Pain
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My Passion Comes from Pain

If you hang out with me long enough, I hope you’ll see this passion or drive for my Christian faith. I’d say I’ve had this passion for a long time. My church friends have seen this firsthand, as well as my gay friends! I can also sense it myself whenever I’m at my small group or Bible […]