Tom

I'm YOB's cofounder and editor, and I also host our two podcasts. I've written a couple books as Thomas Mark Zuniga, including a 2013 memoir in which I first came out. Once upon another universe I anonymously blogged about my faith and sexuality under the Xanga username, twoBeckonings. I'm an INFJ, Enneagram 4w5, and my spirit animal is the buffalo. I love to travel, and my favorite place in the world is the one where coffee and vulnerability meet. When I'm not wandering, I live in Asheville, North Carolina – the Jewel of the Blue Ridge.
It's Okay for Men to Cry
It’s Okay for Men to Cry
Is it okay for men to cry? Jesus did, as we see in the famed Lazarus story of John 11. But what about men in today's culture? In this month's episode, I talk about crying over the death of a dog and the death of a car and how it's okay for men to have a more sensitive side. Even if it's the only side.
Breaking Down the Idol of Brotherhood
Breaking Down the Idol of Brotherhood
I didn't realize it at the time, but I'd made brotherhood my idol. Looking back, I see it so clearly now. So madly obvious. I made this pursuit of brotherhood and even ministry my idol. And I got the wind knocked out of me on the asinine climb.
"Pray the Gay Away" This Christmas
“Pray the Gay Away” This Christmas
Have you ever tried to "pray the gay away"? God's way of doing things often — nearly always — involves an exorbitant amount of waiting, process, and journey. It's a brand new MANLY MONDAY, featuring Simeon's story from Luke 2, the concept of Jesus coming to earth as a baby rather than a man, and my bangs.
My Two Greatest Struggles as a Man
My Two Greatest Struggles as a Man
Tom shares his two greatest masculine struggles: capability and beauty. To counter those long engrained voices, he dives into 1 Samuel 17 and Psalm 139 for stories and thoughts from everyone's favorite ruddy poet-king.
A Man Like All the Other Men?
Am I a Man Like All the Other Men?
I recently returned from a men's retreat in which I came face-to-face with my biggest struggle: not anything regarding my sexuality or sexual addictions. But simply feeling like a man. Like a man among men, assembled on an equal playing field rather than somewhere on another field's sidelines.
Jesus Wants Us All to Come Out
Jesus Wants Us All to Come Out
It's National Coming Out Month. For this month's MANLY MONDAY, Tom takes a look at the hunchbacked woman of Luke 13, relating her 18-year story to his own 19-year journey of coming out and finally bringing the dark below to light.
I'm Still Ashamed to Talk About My Sexuality
I’m Still Ashamed to Talk About My Sexuality
Just because I'm "out" doesn't mean I'm always going out of my way to talk about sexuality. Outside my closest friendships, I still don't feel comfortable sharing. I still feel ashamed of my sexuality. Even after all this time. All these stories, written or otherwise.
Is Jesus Still With Me?
Is Jesus Still With Me?
It's MANLY MONDAY! In this episode, Tom dives into two storms from Scripture: one with Jesus in the boat and one with Jesus on the waves. He's present in both storms but also calling us to something beyond.
Is YOB Going a New Direction?!
Is YOB Going a New Direction?!
MANLY MONDAY returns after a month's hiatus! Join me as I tackle the question (that used to be) on everybody's (or a vocal few's) minds (or not).
My Jesus Journey Leads Me Here
My Jesus Journey Leads Me Here
Call it a "new direction" or a clearer translation of what YOB has been from the start: a community desperate for Jesus. My 31-year Jesus journey leads me here. Wherever "here" is. Broken on the floor. Echoes of the past ringing in my ears. Doubts for the future always shadowing my vision no matter how many tears I blink away.
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