Hey brothers! I wanted to give you all a quick bird’s eye view of my life the last 9 months!
I bought a house.
It feels really weird typing that sentence right now! I still lie in bed at nights and have a hard time processing the fact that I’m responsible for my own place. I could bore you on all the details of the place, but I want to focus more on what I’ve been learning through it all.
I’ve always kind of envisioned myself living in the city. Maybe it was God preparing me for a life of service, or maybe it’s more of an aversion to farmland and just the need for a change of scenery.
Anyway, it happened. I’m officially living IN the city! I’ve had a roommate since day one. He’s a great friend and brother in Christ.
We also share a mutual burden for ministering to the refugee community. If we were not called to these people, we probably wouldn’t be in this specific location. But God is good!
Oh, and I’m still SSA. I bet that surprised everyone!
But the good news is that I’m still learning things.
Thing 1: Living with a male roommate can help with body-confidence struggles.
My body-image anxiety has always kept me from feeling comfortable around other guys. I’ve worried about impressing guys — which is futile, of course. I’ve also stressed out about not looking as ripped as all the guys I’ve idolized. I’m getting over that, too.
So, I’m learning how to be comfortable around the house, regardless of how many clothes we’re wearing. It’s very freeing!
Thing 2: There are some things that living with another guy won’t help!
Sometimes, I get excited when I think other guys can “help” me. If they’re helping me with body-image issues, maybe they can help me with my cravings for physical touch! Maybe they’ll be amazing friends I can talk to!
Then again, maybe it’s a blessing that I don’t find all my “help” in one single guy friend. I still fall on my face crying out for Jesus.
Thing 3: It can be hard not to be worried about “looking gay.”
I mean, when you are always in the car together, living together, going walking together . . . what must the neighbors think? We’ve both mentioned it to each other numerous times.
We just tell ourselves that the world needs to get over it!
Thing 4: Having your own pad opens up doors for encouraging other young men.
We’ve hosted quite a few people already! It’s fun having a place where other young men can feel free to just drop in and hang out! Sometimes, we invite our refugee friends over, and sometimes it’s just our bros from church.
I might be biased, but I tend to think that SSA guys have natural qualities that make hosting easier than a bunch of straight guys would.
This is my short list. What have you guys learned from moving out of your parents’ home and/or living with a male roommate?
* Photo courtesy, SteffanyZphotography, Creative Commons.